Multiplicity
and Victimization: What part of 'No!' don't you understand? Vs. What part
of you doesn't understand 'No!'?
TABLE
of CONTENTS
ABSTRACT
Although ego-state
therapy (Watkins & Watkins, 1988 and Watkins, 1993) is essential
in the treatment of dissociative disorders and multiple personality disorder,
it is seldom used with the general client population. Since all people
have multiplicity (Beahrs, 1982), I believe that ego-state therapy
is underutilized; it can be used to address people's multiplicity or different
levels of consciousness. Ego-state therapy is equivalent to doing
family/group therapy within the individual. State-dependent learning
and memory are involved who we are in a given context; we are a microcosm
of our environment (Rivera, 1989). In cases of victimization, dissociative
disorders and multiple personality disorder are overlooked in the rush
to punish the victimizer and empower the victim. Drug and/or alcohol abuse
is frequently involved in cases of victimization. Many victims and victimizers
are chemically dependent and are medicating the pain of their own victimization
that they experienced as children. Drugs and alcohol need to be recognized
as chemical dissociators (Beahrs, 1982; Braun, 1986; and Ross, 1989).
The cycle of victimization cannot be broken unless the victimizer's and
the victim's multiplicity are therapeutically acknowledged and confronted.
Ross' (1989) general trauma model is the beginning of a paradigm shift
away from viewing psychiatric symptoms as psychopathological and biomedical:
to, viewing them as natural outcomes of trauma.
Note:
Several people have told me that this abstract does not do justice to
the article, and that they were glad that that read on.
INTRODUCTION
In this article, I
have synthesized several contemporary ideas that are impacting the thinking
of many therapists and how they treat people's multiplicity and people
with dissociate disorders (DDs) and multiple personality disorder (MPD).
These ideas include the following: (1) All of us operate at multiple levels
of consciousness, which we acquire through socialization and we are microcosms
of our families and our society (Rivera, 1989). Perhaps the most important
difference between a "normal" multiple and a person with DD/MPD
is that a "normal" multiple has a consistent sense of self,
an "I" that calls all the shots. A person with true DD/MPD does
not have a consistent sense of self. The context, at the moment, becomes
the defining factor of who the person is and how she or he responds. Many
DDs/MPDs manage to live relatively normal lives and are very high functioning
individuals. "The essential feature of dissociative disorder is a
disturbance or alteration in normally integrative functions of identity,
memory, or consciousness" (Spiegel, 1993, p.6). The ability to dissociate
and encapsulate trauma is very adaptive initially; but, when the survivor
is older and in a safe environment, the extreme use of dissociation becomes
contextually inappropriate. (2) Ego-state therapy (Watkins &
Watkins, 1988 and Watkins, 1993) is a powerfully effective treatment method
with many client populations, not just people with DDs/MPD. (3) Ego-state
therapy (Watkins & Watkins, 1988 and Watkins, 1993) is equivalent
to doing family/group therapy within the individual. The power
differentials that exist in the family and in society also exist within
us all (some of which are based on gender) (Rivera, 1989). Cognitive distortions
and narcissistic entitlement issues (Hill, 1993) need to be addressed
at this level (the family within each individual) before we can
hope to deal with violence in families and in society. (4) State-dependent
learning (SDL) is involved in determining who we are in a given context
(although this is the case much more so with DDs/MPDs). (5) The wealth
of information about social work with groups can be applied to
the family within us all - the group dynamics are similar and the
group work can serve as a form of internal "consciousness raising"
or integration (Rivera, 1989). When a social worker works with
an individual, she or he is actually working with a group: The person's
family of origin and all significant people in the person's life, for
they represent part of the person. So, if you are thinking group work
is not important and not your forté, you need to think again, if you really
want to be an effective social worker. (6) To address the question "What
part of `no' don't you understand?" is to ask the real question "What
part of you doesn't understand `no'"? (Unknown source). (7) Our multiplicity
needs to be recognized, honored, and when necessary, therapeutically confronted.
PERCEPTION
IS EVERYTHING?
Often, I am reminded
of the analogy of the elephant being perceived as everything but an elephant
due to all the different perceivers having different perceptual filters
and rather narrow focuses - to the point of tunnel vision. When you blindfold
the perceivers and allow them to touch the elephant and then ask them
to describe what they perceive, they all have different perceptions. One
feels the trunk and says that the elephant is a trunk. Another feels the
tail and says that the elephant is a tail, and so on.
Everyone is staking
out theories, often in direct opposition to other theories on the surface,
that exclude each other; yet, conceivably everyone is really talking about
the same thing. Perhaps the gestalt is a little bit of all and a unifying
theory is possible with an open mind and that requires that we take off
our blindfolds and stand back in order to take in the big picture.
At the V.O.I.C.E.S.
(Victims Of Incest Can Emerge Survivors) 9th Annual Conference on July
21,1991 in Lincolnwood, Illinois, Roberta Sachs, Ph.D., used the analogy
of the elephant to explain why clinicians overlook dissociative disorders
and multiple personality disorder. In her workshop on the "Diagnosis
and Treatment of Dissociative Disorders and Multiple Personality - Part
I & II", she said that dissociative disorders and multiple personality
disorder represent the entirety of the elephant, while the trunk represents
an eating disorder, the tail represents chemical dependency, the ear represents
borderline personality disorder (or a mixture of personality disorders),
the feet represent "mood swings" and so on. So clinicians need
to stand back and take in the whole picture in order to see dissociative
disorders and provide appropriate treatment for the client.
Colin Ross suggests
that effective interventions can "arise from looking at the world
through dissociative-colored glasses" (Ross, 1989, p.173). I think
this approach holds the key to finding effective interventions for victimization
on a personal level; as well as, a societal level. Ross (1989) has developed
a general trauma model in which psychiatric symptoms can be viewed as
traumatic and atraumatic (organicity or chemical imbalance). Most of the
symptoms of a person with a chronic trauma disorder are viewed as dissociative
in nature. Ross believes that "borderlines don't have either personality
disorders or psychoses: They have chronic trauma disorder" (Ross,
1989, p.149). "Splitting is held to be the foundation of borderline
personality, and dissociation the basis of MPD. This means that the distinction
between the two disorders is real only if the distinction between splitting
and dissociation is real, which it isn't" (Ross, 1989, p.151). Both,
splitting and dissociation, are normal responses to abnormal situations
(chronic trauma). I believe the unifying theory will be this general trauma
model; and, dissociation, not repression, will be the defense mechanism
responsible for most of the symptoms that clients present.
Ego-state therapy
(Watkins & Watkins, 1988 and Watkins, 1993) is a powerfully effective
treatment method with many client populations, not just people with DDs/MPD.
The Watkins (1979b)
even define their "ego state therapy" modality as the use of
group and family therapy techniques to deal with the "family of Self"
comprising a single human individual. Gently extending this principle
to cover almost the whole of psychotherapy, Watkins says (1979), "With
any patient I assume that in a sense there are at least two `personalities'.
One wants to get well or he would not be here in my office. The other
does not want to get well or he would already be well." The wrong
kind of reassurance to the first of these two personalities could make
an enemy of the second, sabotaging treatment. Perhaps this is the primary
etiology of resistance. If so, much resistance may be unnecessary (Beahrs,
1982, p.116).
Ego-state therapy
utilizes an eclectic approach in helping the client solve internal diplomacy
problems.
FEMINIST
ANALYSIS OF MULTIPLE PERSONALITY
Who are we? Margo
Rivera in an article entitled "Linking the Psychological and the
Social: Feminism, Poststructuralism, and Multiple Personality" speaks
to this question.
Poststructuralist
philosophy points to the similarities between individuals who elaborate
multiple personality as an outcome of child abuse and others who, although
they do not use the radical dissociative defenses individuals with multiple
personality do, also construct their identities in a field of power
relations, both personal and political, in multiple and contradictory
ways. This perspective can aid us in seeing multiple personality more
clearly and consistently, not as a strange and exotic phenomenon, a
clinical oddity, but one of the many manifestations of alternative forms
of consciousness that are on a continuum of the personal human responses
both to our immediate, intimate environment that effects (sic) our growth
and development and also to the wider social and historical context
which has a no less powerful, although often less obvious, impact on
determining who we become as persons.
Integrating psychological
understandings of multiple personality with social and political ones
is helpful in a number of ways, philosophically, clinically, and practically.
That maxim of feminist praxis, the personal is political, can
be an effective principle in therapy of individuals with multiple personality
(Rivera, 1989, p.29).
Rivera views women
as victims more so than men, since many identified people with multiple
personalities are women.
WHERE ARE THE MEN
WITH DISSOCIATIVE DISORDERS/MPD?
Many men (and women)
in prison have dissociative disorders or a multiple personality disorder
that are not recognized due to many clinicians' unfamiliarity with dissociative
disorders, as well as the legal dilemmas this recognition would present
society: Are they to be held accountable for their crime or be released
once psychotherapy has been successful?
We know that the
prisons are loaded with persons who could otherwise be treated and who
are not. We are beginning to appreciate that many sex offenders have
themselves been victimized. While this does not diminish that their
behavior is reprehensible and offensive, we are going to keep cranking
out abusers and offenders until we begin to work with these populations
and their dissociative disorders, which are born of their own childhood
traumatization. Most so-called treatment programs for offenders don't
recognize dissociative disorders (Calof, 1993, p.67).
GENDER,
DISSOCIATION, AND POWER DIFFERENTIALS
Women are socialized
to take their anger out on themselves - witness the incidence of eating
disorders, depression problems, violence that women experience, and similar
problems. Men are socialized to act on their anger and do so regularly.
I will discuss both more later in this article. The point that I am trying
to make is that we are all victims of our socialization. It is pointless
to look for blame: besides, we do not know which came first - the chicken
or the egg (Still, people must be held accountable for their behavior).
People are more open to therapeutic intervention when they feel the family
therapist is more interested in helping them to become healthier individuals,
than in "finger pointing."
The power differentials
that exist in society and the family also exist within us all.
A person with multiple personalities is a microcosm in which much can
be learned and applied to the rest of us (Rivera, 1989). Dissociation
is a normal defense mechanism that we all use. The problem for people
with dissociative disorders and multiple personalities is that they have
built barriers in between their personalities. The more trauma and greater
the severity of the trauma, the greater the number of personalities formed
and/or the thicker the dissociative barriers between the "parts"
or personalities become. Dissociation can be conceptualized as lying on
a continuum from normal to pathological (Braun, 1988). The degree of multiplicity
experienced by individuals also lies on a continuum: some of us have experienced
small traumas, while others have experienced horrendous traumas. The degree
of dysfunction is determined by the amount and quality of the internal
communication and the degree in which the different personalities or "parts"
of themselves cooperate (Kluft, 1988). Good communication and cooperation
are necessary for families or families within to be healthy. "Normal"
multiples ("normal" people) have an "executive personality"
or "part" of them that evaluates the family within's
different wants, needs, views, and then determines what consistent course
of action needs to be taken. A person with true multiple personalities
doesn't have a consistent executive personality because given a particular
context, one personality may have more power than another personality
in different context. This power differential is dependent upon the context:
the situation, the players involved, and so on. This is true in a family
(or any group). If family therapy is useful for families, then why not
use it to help people with true multiple personalities and, most importantly,
why not use it to help "normal" multiples with their families
within?
THERAPY
THAT ADDRESSES PEOPLE'S MULTIPLICITY
Using ego-state
therapy (Watkins & Watkins, 1988 and Watkins, 1993) or internal
group therapy (Caul, 1984) or voice dialoguing (Stone & Winkelman,
1989) or internal family systems model (Schwartz, 1992) or "parts
party" (Satir, 1991) can help people to deal with their families
within no matter where they lie on the continuum of multiplicity.
In particular, instead of looking for blame, get on with treating victims
and victimizers using ego-state therapy (a form of family/group
therapy) to help their families within come to some peace. Perhaps
the goal of therapy with the family within is the same for therapy
with families: unification and preservation of the family. To unite and
preserve the family, a family therapist can tell you that working with
only one member of a family is not as effective as if you can get the
whole family into treatment. Why do we treat only the presenting person
in individual therapy: Why not treat the family within, starting,
as some therapists suggest with the most malleable member of the family
(for families), or as I am suggesting, starting with the most malleable
member of the family within (for individuals)? Victimizers may
need to be removed from the home to prevent more abuse from occurring.
Victimizers and victims must have a "consciousness-raising"
or integration (Rivera, 1989) within their family within
before they can be safe, because like abusive families, victimizers and
victims have persecutors in their family within (internalized persecutors
or misguided protectors).
The treatment outcome
that David Caul hoped for when working with people with multiple personalities
would be applicable to all of us: "It seems to me (David Caul) that
after treatment, you want a functional unit, be it a corporation, a partnership,
or a one-owner business" (Kluft, 1987, p.370).
Personalities within
us all are formed from identification, internalization, and introjection
of important people (good or bad) in our lives in given contexts. Who
we are at any given time depends on the context and the power differentials
within our family within. (Recall: state-dependent learning, SDL).
Kluft (1988, p.57) in reference to complex MPD (greater than twenty-six
personality states or alters) suggests that: "If one understands
the process of alter formation as one of defensive reduplication and/or
reconfiguration rather than division, the problem of wondering how the
mind becomes divided into such complexity ceases to be relevant. The alters
become different patterns of whole and/or partial copying and/or reconfiguring,
which, when activated, may be more or less similar to one another, and
inevitably will have a lot in common." I believe this still the case
for all people, but barriers between "personalities" or "parts"
for people with dissociative disorders are thicker and less permeable.
We all have multiplicity and are socialized to take on many different
roles and probably assume many different ego-states in a chameleon fashion
to accomplish all that is required of us.
Why isn't the treatment
(psychotherapy and/or psychoeducation) of victims and victimizers more
successful than it is? I think it is because we are doing treatment with
people who aren't in the room with the clients and us. It may be that
we need to do the psychotherapy and/or psychoeducation with the internalized
father or mother or someone else that the clients have internalized (or
introjected or identified with) when they were 5-years- old. The clients
need to examine these internalized parts of themselves and redefine those
aspects of themselves from a more mature (cognitive, developmental, emotional
and moral) perspective: The client must be able to say, this situation
is happening now, not when I was 5-years-old and I can choose a response
that is contextually appropriate, not a response of internalized or introjected
person of my childhood. Our perceptual filters changed over time and with
experience. A 5-year-old's perception of dad or mom may be fairly accurate
or skewed depending on the context and the child's developmental level.
What is important is that victims and victimizers receive therapy for
their family within so that they can redefine who they are in the
present safe context: They are more mature now. This therapy is necessary
before they can ever hope to change their reaction to situations that
are throwbacks to their childhood when they were powerless to define who
they were. The "consciousness- raising" or integration
(Rivera, 1989) within their family within will be the "consciousness-
raising" of future generations.
I wish the idea of
doing family therapy with the victims' and the victimizers' families
within were as easy as family therapy with the whole families. Family
therapy is no easy task because of denial, repression, and dissociation.
Doing family therapy with victims and victimizers is complex because,
like the people with true multiple personalities, victims and victimizers
use denial, repression, and dissociation as defense mechanisms to varying
extents to cope with the hand dealt them in childhood; and that, continues
to be dealt to them through the socialization process (thus reinforcing
earlier training, making it difficult to change perceptions and behaviors).
In fact, many victims and victimizers probably have dissociative disorders
(DDs) or multiple personality disorder (MPD). To quote Judith Herman:
Denial, repression,
and dissociation operate on a social as well as an individual level.
The knowledge of horrible events periodically intrudes into public consciousness,
but is rarely retained for long. To speak publicly about one's knowledge
of atrocities is to invite the stigma that attaches to victims. Those
who attempt to describe atrocities that they have witnessed also risk
their credibility (Herman, 1990, p.290).
BLENDING
PERSPECTIVES
I think the gestalt
of human experience can include analysis of the many facets of our social
ills and interventions that structuralists, family systems therapists,
clinicians, and others can all buy into and then contribute ideas and
strategies that are effective in improving the human experience. Structuralists,
you ask? "The structural approach asks the practitioner to consider
first the structural surround before placing the problem(s) within
the person of the individual(s). If there is no pressure stemming from
outside the person, then the focus can shift to a more internal realm"
(Wood & Middleman, 1989, p.13). What better place to look for the
environment than within each person's family within? We are our
environments.
Conceivably the wealth
of information about social work with groups can be applied to
the family within us all, but especially with the families within
of victims and victimizers; external juxtaposed to internal: group
scanning, fostering group cohesion, and thinking group are required for
external (and internal) group "consciousness-raising"
(Middleman & Wood, 1990). The difference would be that individuals
need to be empowered to become their own group worker, in a sense, and
to share the family within's process with a social worker who teaches
individuals the skills for working with social work groups (or their family
within). This "consciousness-raising" would be an integration
of the family within.
Linda J. Hill, L.C.S.W.,
B.C.D., Louisville, Kentucky, tells the clinicians that she supervises
to "think multiplicity, multiplicity, multiplicity. 'Parts work'
can be used with most people who come to treatment, not just people with
MPD (multiple personality disorder)." I believe people do not consciously
want to be victims or victimizers, if they feel like they have a conscious
choice. "The problem is that few of these people view themselves
as having choices (Lay, 1993). Hill (1993) believes that there are people
who may not have the capacity to make choices due to organicity or a chemical
imbalance, but for the most part, people are dysfunctional because of
their life experiences. Again, I suspect that many victims and victimizers
have dissociative disorders (including multiple personality disorder)
that are not being diagnosed and treated. Hill (1993) finds that labels
are not always helpful, but if the label gets people the correct treatment
to end their suffering and the suffering that they may inflict on others,
then use it. In a humorous way, when clients who are also therapists deny
their multiplicity (i.e., "Part? I don't have any parts."),
she asks them if they would prefer being labeled borderline personality
disorder, instead. Most therapists consider "borderlines" difficult
and often untreatable, whereas "multiples" have a better prognosis.
This usually stops the argument.
I believe that when
victimizers claim partial or full amnesia for their violent behavior,
many people believe that they are lying and close their minds to the possibility
that victimizers are describing a dissociative episode. Moreover, when
victimizers claim inability to control their behavior, many people miss
what is called "passive influence" common to dissociative disorders
(Kluft, 1991; Loewenstein, 1991; and Putnam, 1989) or an outright switch
to another personality of an antisocial presentation (Lay, 1993) and,
therefore, in both cases eliminate appropriate diagnosis and treatment
for the victimizers.
Jean Franklin (1988,
p.31) describes how "alters" or "parts" of a person
can influence each other in an excellent article entitled "Diagnosis
of Covert and Subtle Forms of Multiple Personality Disorder":
The personalities
and personality states of patients with covert and subtle forms of MPD
usually influence each other rather than emerging overtly. They may
influence each other by talking to or transferring thoughts and feelings
to one another or by imposing themselves on, dominating or suppressing
each other.
These influences
take the form of co-presence, co-consciousness and passive
influence, which often overlap. In co-presence, an alter influences
the behavior or affective state of another without assuming control
(Kluft, 1984). In co-consciousness (Prince, 1906), an alter is aware
of the feelings, actions and thoughts of another. In passive influence,
patients feel that impulses, acts and affects are imposed on them, that
their body is influenced by some force, that thoughts are withdrawn
from their mind, or that their mind is influenced by thoughts they ascribe
to others (Kluft, 1985b, 1987a).
Furthermore, Philip
M. Coons, M.D., has been investigating dissociative disorders not otherwise
specified (DDNOS) and believes that intermittent explosive disorder (also
called "berserker/blind rage syndrome" by A. Simon) deserves
further study as a DDNOS entity (Coons, 1992 and Ross, 1989). Intuitively,
I believe that most or all intermittent explosive disordered behaviors
are dissociative in nature. Just saying, "No!" to people with
dissociative disorders is not going to stop their violent behaviors. And
just saying, "Don't go back to that abusive environment" is
going to stop victims from returning to their victimizer. (The victims
probably have a vulnerable child personality that will continue to go
back to the victimizer for parenting and/or abuse (the victim may
have an internal persecutor that insists that they (other "parts")
go back to take their punishment). A child personality usually
fears abandonment and will endure the abuse ("It doesn't hurt, much.")
because of a need to attach to someone.)
By using an eclectic
approach (including Ego-state therapy or "parts work"),
the saying "What part of `no' don't you understand?" becomes
"What part of you doesn't understand `no'"? (Unknown source).
Clinicians must be prepared to therapeutically engage children in adult
bodies because it is usually a child part that doesn't understand "no."
What is this eclectic approach? It is whatever works. Ego-state therapy
(Watkins & Watkins, 1988 and Watkins, 1993) or internal group therapy
(Caul, 1984) or voice dialoguing (Stone & Winkelman, 1989) or the
internal family systems model (Schwartz, 1992) or "Parts Party"
(Satir, 1991); identifying and correcting cognitive distortions of the
family within; structural solutions (i.e., removing victimizers
from the home, individual/couples/group therapy for victims and victimizers,
jobs to help families function in society, alcohol & drug rehabilitation,
and more). Using hypnosis, therapeutic metaphors, positive reframing,
and paradoxical permission (the Change Model of the Palo Alto group),
will be necessary to gain access to the family within due to denial,
repression and dissociation. Hill (1993) believes in confronting narcissistic
entitlement issues directly and repeatedly: She believes that the
client must have personal integrity which means "personal
integrity in regards to the self, as well as to others. The parts
of self need to learn to negotiate in a way that is fair and reasonable.
It's not fair for one part to beat up on another part and behave like
a bully. It's not fair anywhere in our social life together as human beings.
People are not entitled to injure themselves; because, it hurts not only
them, but everybody else around them in some way. A person has to have
enough personal integrity to be able to stick with psychotherapy
because if he or she wants constant stroking and won't allow anyone to
criticize his or her destructive behaviors then psychotherapy is not therapeutic
nor particularly helpful."
Ego-state therapy
(Watkins & Watkins, 1988 and Watkins, 1993), regardless of the clients'
diagnostic labels, is an effective intervention to use when working with
most clients who have narcissistic entitlement issues, i.e., clients
who feel entitled to abuse other "parts" of themselves or others
because they were abused as children. Ego-state therapy is also
effective with most clients who have difficulty with personal integrity,
i.e., not taking responsibility for their behavior by projecting the blame
onto other "parts" of themselves or others. Some of the questions
to ask are: What "part" feels entitled and why? What cognitive
distortions does this "part" have? What "part" thinks
it isn't responsible for its behavior and why? The client's destructive
behavior(s) must be confronted before the cycle of internal and
external victimization can be broken.
Hill (1993) believes
that therapists working with dissociative clients are assisted by knowledge
of borderline theory since many multiples have a borderline component
within their personality structure. To be effective, therapeutic boundaries
must be maintained. When the therapist doesn't understand this, the borderline
parts will escalate. Narcissistic behavior (i.e., expecting special treatment
and expecting not to be held accountable for their actions) must be confronted
when it happens and crises need to be evaluated in an objective manner.
The borderline parts will do everything possible to distort the therapist's
objectivity.
SOCIALIZATION
Society is sick and
in denial about how harmful child abuse is to children and society, however,
assigning blame is counterproductive and divisive. It is time to point
the finger at ourselves and work on ourselves to become empowered by our
"consciousness-raising" within, for we are the seeds
of the future: We must break our own denial. We can change only ourselves;
but collectively we can change our society and the way we socialize our
children. We must look at our collective and individual defense mechanisms
of denial, repression, and dissociation, for they have run amuck. "If
nothing changes, nothing changes" (Larsen, 1987, p.25).
The patriarchal power
structure is still a legitimate target of intervention, but so are individuals:
We have been co-opted by our socialization. The purpose of socialization
is to maintain the status quo and to make sure that change, when it does
occur, occurs very slowly. We are unwittingly going along with much of
the socialization that makes victims and victimizers and thus reinforce
the very behaviors we say repulse us. Perhaps the "finger pointing"
is the root of all evil: denial, repression, and dissociation. Assigning
blame lets the rest of us off the hook and we expect the victimizers to
change while our environment and we remain the same. Now, that is crazy
making! Change is fine for someone else, but not for us. It is like sending
alcoholics just out of treatment back to their drinking buddies and expecting
them to stay sober - it usually doesn't happen. Alcohol and drugs are
chemical dissociators; that is, they facilitate "switching"
into different "parts" for people with dissociative disorders
or MPD (Barkins et al., 1986; Beahrs, 1982; and Ross, 1989). "Alcohol
may be more of a facilitator than a cause of the underlying `personality'
that gets `let out.' Alcohol intoxication is one of two methods par excellence
for letting out a persecutory alter-personality. The other is hypnosis,
which is therapeutic in providing more rather than less control. It is
likely that in many alcoholics the substance abuse is secondary to a primary
dissociative disorder" (Beahrs, 1982, p.94). The executive personality
is displaced by the alcoholic part (sometimes before the actually drinking
begins) that is based on state-dependent learning: That personality is
probably a child or adolescent cognitively, developmentally, emotionally,
and morally. (There could be more than one alcoholic personality, therefore
more than one child or adolescent personality.)
There are women who
are also victimizers of men, children, and other women. Women have not
been socialized to be violent to the extent that men have been. Sticks
and stones will hurt you, but so will words. Many of us can remember hurtful
things that our mothers (and fathers) have said to us. I guess what is
important is to look for the gestalt and not lose one's perspective by
looking too closely, for too long, at a portion of the picture. We are
all in this boat together: the women are bailing water and the men are
rowing a sinking ship and the children are the real victims...and their
generation's victimizers.
Family "cut-offs"
(little or no contact at all between disengaged family members) are seen
as problems by some family therapists (who strive for family unity); and,
solutions by some structuralists (who may view the family as the problem,
not the individual). There is room for compromise on this one, depending
on the situation/context. For example, removing a victimizer from the
family until it is therapeutic to allow him/her to return to his/her family
could be one such compromise.
A CLOSER
LOOK
Now, I reluctantly
approach this next topic, because it requires the reader to be familiar
with the defense mechanisms of dissociation, identification, internalization,
introjection and state-dependent learning (SDL) (Braun, 1988), and the
lexicon of dissociative disorders (i.e., introjects, internalized persecutors,
"switching," "triggers," and others). A truly remorseful
victimizer (who may initially present as an antisocial victimizer without
remorse (Lay, 1993)) is victimized by his/her abusive behavior, and a
victim can have an internal persecutor asking for the victimization.
A victim may consciously, but usually unconsciously, push the victimizer's
"buttons." The victimizer is unable to control his/her response
because it was state-dependently learned, and the "button" or
"trigger" is automatic. This causes a "switch" to
occur and the power differential within to be shifted to an immature
(cognitively, developmentally, emotionally, and morally) personality state,
introjected (or internalized or identified with) from an abusive childhood
experience. Some victimizers have chosen a structural solution for themselves:
They avoid stressful situations/contexts and people who "push their
buttons." Some victimizers have this solution chosen for them, i.e.,
they are sent to prison for injuring or murdering their spouses (or others).
Intimate relationships can be full of "triggers" for the victimizers
and dangerous for themselves, as well as their partners (the victims).
In order to be able to control his/her abusive behavior, the executive
personality must be strengthened. Ego-state therapy (Watkins &
Watkins, 1988 and Watkins, 1993) is a way to accomplish this. Sending
a victimizer to behavior modification therapy has only fleeting results
- they last only until the next switch when presented with a context in
which a victimizing "part" appears on the scene. It's like the
treatment failure of an alcoholic multiple who can't get the alcoholic
"part(s)" to go to AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) or treatment: the
bewildered host personality is held responsible for all the personalities'
behaviors (as it must be!), yet the host feels powerless to do anything
about it and feels victimized by the experience (as it is, indeed) (Unknown
source). Victimizers are victimized by their family within and
we are all victimized by our socialization. The bewildered host personality
has been forced into the passenger's seat and must watch in horror and
dismay as the victimizing personality drives down a one-way street in
the wrong direction (Unknown source).
I do not believe people
want to be abused, if they felt they had a choice not to be abused. The
victim, also, can be put into situations in which the host or some other
"part" experiences the abuse and the internalized persecutor
(or a misguided protector) does not feel it: It is not her or him that
is being abused - it is a "part" who is perceived weak or bad
that needs to be punished to learn her/his lesson. We could say that the
victim has been co-opted by her/his socialization and by her/his family
within. The victim's host personality also watches in astonishment
at her/his predicament and wonders why she/he stays around to be abused.
If only she/he realized that a "part" of her/him is working
against her/him in an abusive or a misguided way. Hill (1993) believes
that victims are afraid to tell the authorities about their abuse, not
only because of the fear of the victimizers' reprisals, but for fear of
the reprisals of their internalized persecutor(s) and/or misguided protector(s).
There is a lot to this and requires some reading about dissociative disorders
(Beahrs, 1982; Bliss, 1986; Braun, 1988; Bryant et al., 1992; Kluft, 1985;
Loewenstein, 1991; Putnam, 1989; and Ross, 1989, and others). Without
reading this material, you might read what I have written as victim blaming:
It is not. I don't know who to blame, the chicken or the egg, so, I am
not assigning blame: It is useless. Prevention needs to focus on how we
socialize our children and on much earlier detection of abuse. Clinicians
must learn how to recognize and provide appropriate treatment for people
with dissociative disorders and multiple personality disorder.
TREATMENT
RECOMMENDATIONS
1. Remove victimizers
from the home and require individual and group therapy that addresses
their multiplicity issues.
2. Victims, also,
should be required individual and group therapy that addresses their multiplicity
issues and must be protected from further abuse, even if it means
hospitalization or confinement from the abuser or to prevent them from
seeking out other situations/victimizers that cause them harm.
3. Children must be
protected and receive the same therapy recommended for their parents.
If possible the children should be left in their homes, because foster
placement traumatizes them and makes them more likely to use denial, repression,
and dissociation as defense against this trauma. Maybe group homes are
not such bad solutions as long as they are run by "healthy role models":
It might be better than a series of foster homes or constant removal from
their homes and repeated return to their homes. Conceivably the children
could be "reparented" in a healthy context. I believe it's
time to overhaul the foster care and adoption systems.
4. Children should
receive concurrent therapy with the non-offending adult, if the parent
is capable to parent.
5. Couples' therapy
when deemed appropriate (i.e., after six months of separation, if ever.)
6. Family therapy
when it is deemed appropriate, if ever.
7. Journaling can be used as a means
of increasing and improving communication with the victim's and the victimizer's
families within, as well as children who are old enough to journal.
This is a special kind of journaling requiring the different members of
the family within to write to each other in a dialogue format.
Having the person write with her/his left hand may facilitate
this. Adams (1993) covers
some of this in her book.
This combination of
individual (family within), couples, family, and group therapy
is necessary in order to stop the transmission of dissociative disorders
to the next generation. Lynn and Robert Benjamin, in their article "Intervention
With Children In Dissociative Families: A Family Treatment Model,"
state, "It is our belief that treatment of the child- parent subsystem
of a dissociative family has the most potential to interrupt a transgenerational
chain of dysfunctional family patterns" (Benjamin & Benjamin,
1993, p.54). In a previous article, "An Overview of Family Treatment
In Dissociative Disorders", the Benjamins state: "It seems ironic
to us that a family-based approach has been underutilized since this disorder
is precisely about the failure of a healthy family process" (Benjamin
& Benjamin, 1992, pp.236). We need to treat the whole family, not
just the "identified patient."
FURTHER READING
RECOMMENDED
I would like to suggest
that clinicians who are interested in multiplicity and dissociative disorders
read the original manuscripts of John and Helen Watkins (Ego-state
therapy), John Beahrs, Margo Rivera, Frank Putnam, Richard Kluft,
Colin Ross, and the Benjamins. John Beahrs' book on this subject has some
illustrative analogies and addresses the question of whether our identity
is unified or multileveled. Be sure to read about the executive role in
consciousness and the conductor-orchestra analogy, pp.6-9, and how it
is a model of communication and cooperation for our multiplicity, pp.69-73
(Beahrs, 1982). Margo Rivera's offers a feminist analysis of multiple
personality disorder and does an excellent job of linking it with the
socialization process that we all experience (Rivera, 1989).
CONCLUSION
Social constructionists,
probably, would agree that since we have constructed selves, therapy that
addresses our multiplicity would be appropriate. Systems theory can be
applied to victimization without blaming the victim, and I think, interestingly
enough without blaming the victimizer because circular (cybernetic) causality
can't answer the question of which came first - the chicken or the egg.
Socialization is learned sequentially and through constant feedback, so
causality is both linear and circular: we are continuously constructing
and reconstructing ourselves. Intervention needs to be done on a societal
and personal level simultaneously, and at the interface continuously.
The patriarchal tenets must be challenged in favor of an egalitarian society.
Our multiplicity needs to be recognized, honored, and when necessary,
therapeutically confronted.
SUMMARY
All of us operate
at multiple levels of consciousness (Beahrs, 1982) and are microcosms
of our families and our society (Rivera, 1989). Ego-state therapy
(Watkins & Watkins, 1988 and Watkins, 1993) can effectively address
our state-dependent learned multiplicity, which is determined by the existing
power differentials and the contextual environment. Ego-state therapy
is a form of family/group therapy for our family within. Couples,
family, and group therapy are also needed. Drugs and alcohol are chemical
dissociators and need to be recognized as such.
There is already a
stream of consciousness by many therapists towards a paradigm shift away
from psychopathology (based on repression) to a general trauma model (based
on dissociation) where most of client's symptoms will be viewed as dissociative
in nature (Ross, 1989).
ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
The author is grateful
to: Linda
J. Hill, LCSW, BCD (Louisville, KY), for her suggestions and help
in clarifying ideas put forth in this article; Kathy
Lay, ACSW, LCSW (Louisville, KY), for reading earlier drafts of
this article and making specific suggestions; and Bob Youngblood,
English teacher at Floyd Central H.S., Floyds Knob, Indiana, for his editing
of an earlier draft of this article; and numerous others who have read
drafts of this paper and shared their views with me.
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ADDITIONAL NOTES
Added note on
August 17, 1995:
An excellent article
that is a "must read" and goes along with/adds to much of what
I have posted on my home page is:
"Reenactment
and Trauma" by Mark F. Schwartz and Lori D. Galperin in EATING
DISORDERS: A Journal of Treatment & Prevention, Vol 1, Nos. 3&4,
Fall & Winter 1993 (Brunner/Mazel Publishers). Though I advocate clients
being held responsible for their actions/behaviors, I agree with the authors
of this article that: "The message of self-responsibility is an
essential one, but taken to an extreme, it is revictimizing. It leaves
individuals feeling they are failures or weak." (p.315)
Mark F. Schwartz,
Sc.D., is the Director of Masters & Johnson and their Sexual Trauma,
Sexual Compulsivity and Dissociative Disorder Programs & Lori D.
Galperin, LCSW, is the Clinical Co-Director Masters & Johnson
Sexual Trauma, Sexual Compulsivity and Dissociative Disorders Programs.
Written
By Patricia McClendon - www.clinicalsocialwork.com - 09-02-00
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